Breaking Chains

Some don’t know how to show love because they were taught to feel shame. Some don’t know how to be kind because all they ever saw was aggression. Change is hard when a home is broken but it has to start with you and me to break the chain that has ruined our spirit.chains

I had a kind mother but I never learned to hug when I was young. My children are huggers though. They always have to initiate it and so do those who meet me. I find it awkward but I’m getting use to it. Change does happen slowly if we let it.

embraceMy daughters ask, “why don’t you ever say I love you.” You know how I responded, “you know I love you”, but that wasn`t enough. They wanted to hear it. Sometimes we need our children to help us see what we were missing. Showing love and affection was probably the biggest thing missing when I was growing up. I think, maybe, like me, my mother thought we should just know she loved us.

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Steps to Accepting Awards

I am going to use “Shine On” as an example to steps for accepting awards of these types.

There are different awards but the requests are similar when doing these types of “chain style awards”. I hope this helps if you choose to participate. No one is obligated to do it. Your chosen nominees, however, have to be selected if you do. The benefit to this is meeting and sharing new bloggers. Turning it down is, however, understandable because it can get tiresome. It is time-consuming and it involves getting people involved. I apologize to those who get annoyed at these types of requests. One thing I noticed on some blogs is a request for no awards. Smart move on those blogs.

Here are the steps for this particular award (Shine On).

1. Display the award logo on your blog.

Search for the image then copy the image to your draft. You can also put a widget image and it will display on the side as shown on my blog and add your link in the widget so it goes back to your blog post if someone clicks on the image. However, you have to add the link to the widget when you have completed your draft and it has been posted.

2. Link back to the person who nominated you.

Copy the link and put it in your form under “text” not “visual” on your menu options as you create your draft, do the following format, be sure to add “<”  with the “a” at the beginning of this format,  a href =”http:// …com_” target=”blank_”>Title it< then after “<” add your “/a>” to close it and it should look like my title here Shine On and if you click on it you will go to that post.

3. State 7 things about yourself

Make your list of 7 things about you

4. Nominate 15 other bloggers for this award and link to them.

Do your list, copying each link, and then do the process as I showed you under “Link back to the person who nominated you” using the target=”blank_” so each link will open in a separate window.

5. Notify those bloggers of the nomination and the award requirements

Send each of them a notification and direct them to where your award blog is so they can see how it is done.

Fun for all or fun for none. Remember all you have to say is “thank you but I don’t do those” or just “No thank you” or “I’ll have to pass”, which is what I’m about to do this time for another award I just received.

The Liebster Blog Award

I have been nominated for the first time for the Liebster Blog Award x2: Lilica Blake at and Katherine Vucicevic at Thank you both. It is a pleasure to participate. Your questions have both been completed below. Please find yours to see the answers.

LIEBSTER –  the word “liebster” has several definitions: dearest, sweetest, kindest, nicest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued, cute, endearing, welcome

The purpose of participating is to help your blog. I hope many of you participate. To learn more visit

About the Liebster Award

 Rules for The Liebster Blog Award

1. List 11 Random facts about yourself

2. Nominate 11 other bloggers for the Liebster Award.

3. Notify these bloggers.

4. Ask 11 questions that the bloggers must answer upon accepting the Liebster Award.

5. Answer the 11 questions that you were asked when you were nominated.

6. Link back to the person who nominated you.

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I Wonder

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I Wonder

I wonder where it is written as I have written

Who shares my thought with every story that is written

I wonder if we could be so different yet be so alike with

a talent so striking

I wonder if our psych is so alike that we connect at every


Because I wonder


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Life here is busy as I am sure you would agree that it takes time to entertain the readers as much as it does to visit each other. Life on WordPress is a river of thoughts and they come in waves of ideas. Many of these are well shared and creatively done by the bloggers. You are what makes a blog a blog. Continue reading